He Said to His Wife: "You Are Not Under My Protection"

Question :

One night, I went to my wife's room and found that she had locked the door, so I knocked on it, but she did not open it, so I returned and slept in the men's sitting room. In the morning, I went to her and asked her: "Why did you lock the door?" She gave me an unconvincing answer, and at that moment I was angry with her, so I said to her: "As of yesterday, you are not under my protection." Then I returned, but within five minutes, I changed my mind and said these words exactly: "I ask Allah, the Almighty's Forgiveness." three times, (then I said:) "O Allah! Forgive me and pardon me." I seek your advice concerning what I should do regarding this, may Allah preserve you?

Answer:

We advise you, O my brother, to be forbearing and patient and not to be hasty with your wife. Because the woman is created from a bent rib, and if you take pleasure in her, you will find that the pleasure is from the bent area, and if you try to straighten it, you will break it and breaking it means divorcing her. So you should act slowly and not be hasty in divorcing her for the slightest reason. If you become angry,. control yourself so that you do not do something which you will regret. It has been reported in a Hadith:

"The strong person is one who controls himself when he is angry".

Secondly, these words which you pronounced upon your wife are considered a clear divorce and not an unclear, imprecise expression, but they depend upon the intention: If you intended by them to pronounce divorce three times, then it is counted, according to the majority of scholars; but if you only intended. by it one divorce, then you may take her back in that case, as long as she is still in her waiting period. If you desire further clarification, then you may write to the Permanent Committee for Religious Verdicts, at the Presidency of Scientific Re- searches, Religious Verdicts, Preaching and Guidance. And Allah knows best.

Source:
Ibn Jibreen
Fatawa Islamiyah, Vol. 6 Pages 41-42